The Bench
Reflections from The Bench
Thoughts, stories, and quiet invitations to come home to yourself.
Category: Authenticity
When persistence starts to feel like an obligation, maybe the problem isn’t the work. Maybe we’ve simply lost sight of why we wanted to do it in the first place.
True generosity doesn't have to deplete us. When we take care of our own needs and build a reserve, we can give freely—with no sacrifice, resentment, debt, or strings attached.
Coming home to yourself isn't a destination. Staying there takes intention, courage, commitment and persistence—a lifetime of small returns to what is true for you.
When I started therapy and began doing the deeper work of understanding myself, I discovered something that astounded me. So much of the work I needed to do came down to learning to say one very simple word to myself: Yes!
Although a great deal has changed for women, I think some of those old messages are still hiding inside us. They've been passed down through generations, sometimes so quietly that we don't even recognize them anymore.
We talk a lot about authenticity as though it means being honest, speaking our mind, or not worrying about what other people think. I think it goes much deeper than that. Authenticity is the relationship we have with ourselves.