The Bench
Reflections from The Bench
Thoughts, stories, and quiet invitations to come home to yourself.
Category: Self-esteem
How do you learn to love yourself when you don’t even like yourself very much? For me, it didn’t begin with love. It began with something much smaller—and much more possible: care.
We say things to ourselves we would never dream of saying to someone we love. Sometimes the words are so habitual, we don't even hear them anymore. What if we started listening?
True generosity doesn't have to deplete us. When we take care of our own needs and build a reserve, we can give freely—with no sacrifice, resentment, debt, or strings attached.
You don't have to build a ten-foot concrete wall around your heart because somebody once behaved badly, but you don't hand everybody the key.
Although a great deal has changed for women, I think some of those old messages are still hiding inside us. They've been passed down through generations, sometimes so quietly that we don't even recognize them anymore.
I used to teach people how to change their beliefs, but who was I teaching something I couldn't master myself?